About Marnie Breecker
and Duane Osterlind
Why Learn About Betrayal Trauma Recovery?
The pain stemming from betrayal can be overwhelming.
This pain is not limited to just the act of being cheated on but the deceptive behavior and abuse from the betrayer that accompanies it, even after the act has been committed.
Common examples include gaslighting, verbal abuse and an expectation that you should just get over it as they promised they won’t ever cheat again.
Navigating betrayal trauma is very complex. This workshop we'll equip you with the necessary knowledge and skills to begin to heal from the devastating impact of betrayal. This workshop will equip you with the necessary knowledge and skills to begin to heal from the devastating impact of betrayal.
Who Should Attend This Workshop?
This workshop is for couples recovering from relational trauma; the betrayed and the betrayer.
The Betrayed: You may feel as through you can never trust your partner again, and even your own intuition. You may be questioning everything and feel like your reality has been shattered. Nothing makes sense anymore. You may be wondering whether you should stay or go, and whether you will ever heal from the trauma of betrayal.
The Betrayer: Guilt or shame may be suffocating you and you are most likely experiencing feelings of regret or remorse of the trauma you have caused your partner. Overall, this workshop will provide a non-judgmental and safe space, where you will be supported with kindness and compassion
We Have Over 600,000 Podcast Downloads on iTunes and Spotify.
What Our Audience Has To Say About Our Podcast and Couples Workshop
All Accounts Are Anonymous Due To The Sensitivity of This Subject and Client Confidentiality
“For the first time, I felt my feelings were validated. They make sense. I felt my husband finally understood what I had been going through. He was able to see the true impact of his choices on our relationship and my mental health. It was a hard workshop but worth it for both of us. I feel like we have a chance to move forward and heal. Thank you for creating this workshop.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“Honestly, the workshop gave me so much to think about and work on that I am truly excited about recovery – more than I have been for the past year. I have felt at a standstill and frustrated. I now have so many more resources and feel much more hopeful about healing my relationship."
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“Honestly, the workshop gave me so much to think about and work on that I am truly excited about recovery – more than I have been for the past year. I have felt at a standstill and frustrated. I now have so many more resources and feel much more hopeful about healing my relationship."
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“I've been binge listening since finding the Helping Couples Heal podcast. So much good and helpful information. I wish Marnie or Duane had been my therapist since the beginning. I must now grieve decades of unhelpful therapy. Thank you for making this podcast!”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
"These podcasts and their workshop are incrediblypartner-sensitive and trauma-informed, something that came as a much-needed breath of freshair for me after 18 months of treatment-induced trauma. Duane & Marnie & the people at HCHare a real exception to what many of us have experienced at the hands of other therapists.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“I feel more validated and seen than I have for years. Your podcast and couples workshop is life-saving and life-changing. Thank you for putting a name and words into my life experience. Alas, help is available”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“I've been listening to this podcast for over a year now and I simply cannot say enough about the amount of knowledge I've gained from each and every episode! I hope that these two brilliant therapists keep picking the brains of the most recent researchers so that listeners across the world can benefit from the healing information out there.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“I want to just say that your podcast could possibly be what saves my marriage. It definitely launched the right attitude in me for reconciliation.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“Fabulous podcast, so raw and real.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“I can't tell you how life-changing and eye-opening this podcast has been for me and my partner! Marnie and Duane, you are incredible therapists and I'm so glad I found you! I want to help spread your teachings as far and wide as possible. Everybody needs to listen to this podcast!”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“I feel more validated and seen than I have for years. Your podcast and couples workshop is life-saving and life-changing. Thank you for putting a name and words into my life experience. Alas, help is available.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“The HCH couples workshop helped me feel better understood by my partner. I believe it genuinely opened my partner’s eyes to what I had been through and how his behaviors had traumatized me. It was difficult and exhausting, but ultimately important in the healing of my relationship with my husband.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“There is no doubt in my mind that my wife and I are where we are now because of this workshop. I know and understand to a larger extent the trauma my wife suffered and continues to suffer to some degree because of my addiction. I can never fully comprehend what she went through and what she will carry with her for the rest of her life but the trauma workshop gave me an idea of how trauma affects a life and a relationship and the workshop gave us new tools of communication to help each other. This happened without shame and with a lot of love and attention. The trauma workshop I believe reinvigorated my recovery, started the path towards healing our marriage and made me a better person."
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“I recently been betrayed by my partner. This podcast has brought me so much support as we have gone through discovery and started our healing process. Although we have a long way to go, I am hopeful, empowered, and am constantly learning the more I listen. Thank you so much for this, it really has meant so much to me.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“100% worth it! Best thing I ever did was attend the workshop.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“Long overdue review... My husband and I have taken the workshop, listened to the podcasts and are now a part of the couples community as well as groups. This is the only program we have found that works for both of us. We both feel we are heard and helped with HCH. Every topic seems to ring true to us and is always right on point with what we need to hear. Although nothing can bring complete relief to the nightmare we are going through, this community is the closest we have found. Grateful for Duane, Marnie, and their teams for all the insight they bring to the betrayal trauma community.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
"I have listened to many podcasts on sex addiction and betrayal trauma. This is by far the best. It is informative and compassionate and empathetic to the betrayed so that offenders can understand how to repair a relationship. Some podcasts are too religious (as a Christian I appreciate that aspect) or the speaker will draw the relationship away from repair or healing. I appreciate every single episode on working to repair a marriage.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
“I love love love this podcast series. It is so helpful, healing and supportive. I am a partner, 2 years after discovert and I am still learning things from the podcast. It is very helpful to understand how the treatment model has evolved because in my current partner 12 step group there are still partners telling me to evaluate my own codependency to the addict. This podcast is very validating and helps me respond to what feels like accusations when I had no clue about him having sex at strip clubs. I didn’t even know that was a thing. There was no evidence to be found, no texts, no website history of porn, no receipts, no bank statements. This is one podcast I always recommend to others.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Addict In Recovery)
"So thankful for the Helping Couples Heal podcast. It helped my partner begin to understand the trauma and helped me see a way through and know I’m not alone.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“It’s SO rare to find anyone as partner sensitive and betrayal trauma-informed as you, Marnie, and Duane Osterlind and everyone on your staff that we have encountered. You all are incredible and we are grateful for you.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“We would highly recommend this workshop to any couple hoping to heal their relationship. My husband’s shame made it difficult for him to feel and express empathy towards me (something he is still working on), however, he was able to do so towards other betrayed partners who shared their stories and pain. It had such a positive impact on our healing that we continue to participate in couple groups (ex. HCH Aftercare for couples who participated in the workshop).”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“This is not an easy journey to take alone and I have found so much help within the HCH community. If you have not already, I highly recommend listening to the HCH Podcast on shame, it was so validating and helpful for both of us - as have all the HCH podcasts.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“The workshop is worth every penny and every minute of time! For both of us. After 18 months of treatment-induced trauma, I knew something had to change or we wouldn’t make it because I couldn’t keep doing it. I insisted that we do the HCH workshop. Having my husband hear from professionals—instead of me—about the effects of betrayal trauma, and then hearing from several other partners about their pain, made a huge impression on him. The HCH workshop & aftercare program has literally changed our lives.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)
“The workshop gave me insight and words for what I felt intuitively.”
— Past Workshop Participant (Betrayed Partner)